Ask Miriam – January 2019
Dear Miriam,
My father-in-law lives with us and was diagnosed with dementia 5 or 6 years ago. He used to be very active – always taking the dog for long walks and solving puzzles with the grandkids and things like that. But now, especially in the last few months, all he seems to do is sleep. If I suggest an activity, he gets upset. I know it’s important for people with dementia to stay active, but it’s like he has no interest anymore. What can I do?
Anwar
Dear Anwar,
It must be hard to see the change in your father-in-law as he becomes less active, but changes in energy level and interest in activities aren’t uncommon in people with dementia.
Solving a puzzle can be an overwhelming task. Consider the many steps involved: He must remember what a puzzle is, has to remember where the puzzle is kept, then go find the puzzle, remember all the steps in solving it… It can be a lot. So, instead, bring the puzzle (or other activity) to him. Sit and guide him through it. This can be helpful in getting him more engaged.
It is also a good idea to talk to a doctor about the changes in sleep that you’re noticing. Although sleeping more is common in the later stages of the disease, it can also be a sign of depression, a side effect of medication, or an indicator of a nutritional imbalance.
In general, instead of pushing him to be like he was “before,” it can be helpful to focus more on what he can and wants to do now. That takes the pressure off everyone. And if you need further help, call our Helpline: 844-435-7259